6 Signals You Are Really Compatible
For those people who hope and seek everlasting love with a rich man or a millionaire, trying to crack the code of “compatibility” is just as likely to create confusion as clarity. For all the tidy checklists and online quizzes meant to gauge a couple’s compatibility, in fact, it’s a complicated interplay between psychology, biology, and a host of invisible that resist easy characterization.
Does that mean compatibility is overrated as a cornerstone of a segment of healthy relationships? Definitely not.
But neither is compatibility a simple series of boxes you check off and forget about. It turns out your key “must-haves” and “can’t-stands” can line up quite well — and you still rub each other the wrong way. You may both be avid skiers, but if you can’t amicably decide where to go on your next vacation, then “compatibility” in that respect counts for very little.
It’s important to remind yourself alignment will never be perfect, and success ultimately depends on how you handle remaining differences. It’s about your temperament, disposition, and attitude — whether you are able to believe the best about each other, support each other even when disagreeing, and allow your values to grow and change when necessary. Where those qualities are concerned, compatibility is not something you have, it’s something you make — together.
As you consider the following domains of compatibility, think about how each can be approached with love, compassion, understanding, and flexibility. Here are 6 signals to examine, to be sure you begin with a baseline of important shared values with a prospective life partner:
A host of things fall under this umbrella — from eating habits to hygiene to your respective attitudes about substance use. If your idea of a perfect weekend is popcorn and old movies on the sofa, and your partner pushes you to join her in the mosh pits of the city’s punk rock clubs, you may be headed for trouble. On the other hand, you may still be compatible if you can give each other the freedom to enjoy your differences apart.
Of all the goals you will set and work toward together, money management is arguably the most important. That’s because, in one way or another, it touches practically everything else. Do you need to talk bank accounts on the first date? Of course not. But within the first few weeks, it’s important to get even a basic understanding of your potential partners' financial picture and outlook.
Politics and religion
A defining characteristic of an inclusive, democratic society is the ability to calmly consider all points of view. In a romantic relationship, however, some issues are likely to produce divisions too wide to span. Be honest from the beginning about your potentially polarizing beliefs.
You need to know that rich men usually don't spend much time with you. Most of the time they are busying to socializing and working. Hence, you should have your own hobbies to consume the time when your partner not with your side.
This is not to say you must always think alike, but that you should be able to think with similar tools of education and reasoning at your disposal. A divide will inevitably open in a relationship when one partner feels consistently outsmarted and outgunned in conversation.
Yes, it matters whether you want and enjoys the same things in bed. Feeling pressure to deliver an experience you find distasteful is not cool — and not something you can sustain for long. Conversely, you’re probably incompatible if your own desires consistently go unmet.